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Parenting wisdom from an unexpected place
I didn't expect to find some lovely parenting wisdom from a Tim Ferriss Podcast with the CEO of a venison company, alas, here we are.
His wife and him use two thought experiments/mental image/tools with parenting:
- When their kids are pushing their buttons and their fuse is short, they envision what it would be like to be 80 years old and have the ability to be transported back in time to this moment.
- They picture parenting as a tug of war with their kids that they eventually have to loose. When the kids are young, there is no chance of them winning (aka lots of guidance and presence from parents). As kids get older, you let the rope go a little bit, not all at once so the kid falls on their butt, but enough so that by the time their adults, they're holding the rope firmly in their own hands and they've won.
Plus, there's something in there about allowance:)
Listen here on Apple or here on Spotify. It's a long podcast, so, if you want to jump to the parenting part, start at 1:46:15.
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